If you don't want to be married to somebody who is going to cheat on you, then state the boundary and enforce it:

Step 1:

"I will not have an open marriage, and I won't be the only one in a marriage that is willing to work on it anymore.", then go dark, see a lawyer, and make plans for a life without her anymore. This includes protecting yourself financially (hence the lawyer visit).

Don't take her calls, nothing. If she shows up on your doorstep and tells you its over with OM, tell her you don't believe her, and in any event you have a lot of thinking to do.

This should be adequate to cover a few weeks unless you are in a big hurry to file for divorce or she is in a big hurry to file for divorce.

Then get out and do all of your GAl stuff and have a good life that doesn't involve thinking about her all of the time.

You need incontrovertable proof that affair is over, and she has to work to restore your trust, or you will be back here again and again.


Last edited by TimeHeals; 10/16/10 03:49 PM.
M-47,W-40,No kids
D-filed 5/27/2010
Piecing - 10/21/2010
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