Thanks Two. I have read Harley's works. In fact, it was a big part of the New Beginnings workshop we went on in July. H wants to hear none of it. He claims it was all me - that he put up with "years of crap" and that his short affair of months is nothing in comparison. (Yes, I recognize my faults, but I don't see the YEARS of crap I supposedly gave him.) In any case, he justifies the A by saying he had told me in April he was "done" and stopped wearing his ring.
He can tell himself whatever he wants. The end result is he looked to solve his problems outside our marriage and is ruining our family because he still refuses to resolve it inside.
