Like Kara, I read your whole thread Jstar and I get the sense of despair and difficulty you are facing financially and emotionally. The love and care for your children is commendable and perhaps you need to get to a lawyer just to see what your rights are and then be in contact with a church to get some pastoral support. St. Vincent de Paul or similar church groups are there for families in crisis. You need to ask for this help for you and your children. What about your work. Do they offer an employee advice/support program for counselling? Look at the resources available to you and use them to best support you. Use the library to get some books and meditation CDs for your soul. Keep contact with the meetup group. Continue to post here. Sending you every best wish. Cas