On Monday Oct 4th I get a weird text from her that says
"I am in agony. I dont know what to do. I dont want to hurt him I know he loves me"
I knew immediately what that meant and I logged in to our cellphone records and she had been blowing up a strange number for days with texts. I called her she told me she wanted a divorce. I went home and we talked. SHe said "She loves me, YOur awesome etc, I just feel like I married the wrong person" I asked her you mean you dont love me like a husband and she said no I love you like that but your not the right guy"
She said shes tried for a long time to get me to do stuff to fix this but I never responded or would stop. This is true.
She said shes not having an affair that the guy is just a friend. I have verified some of that but its obviously an emotional affair. The guy is everything she wanted to be but he's 22. So I think thats the big thing....
We have a 10 year old son. She just turned 38 on Monday. Married 10 years.
There so much more to write but its hard for me. I'll write more later.
B.S. B.S. B.S.
I want to have a fling w/22 yr old. That is essentially what W is saying to you. So - YOU make the decision as to what comes next. Whether that is: W, end all contact w/22 yr old & commit to M OR W, you're right, this doesn't work, pack your $hit & go. Pick one.
My sitch, I've been in limbo for 13+ months, dim/nc for 7. What I should have said was: H, pack your $hit & have at OW.
M & H: 40 M: 5.5 T: 7.5 OW: 7/09 Bomb: 9/09 Sep: 3/10 H files 7/10
