The tapes - I'm not going to play them for anyone else. Just my parents who helped me (stepmom is a lawyer - she's good at listening to things like that and getting to the important stuff) otherwise I discuss them with my counselor and friends, but that's it.
I should check out MarrigeAdvocats, too.
I understand that this is the anti-DB way, but I am going to speak with a lawyer and file for D. H4L - I think this is the only way to break the fantasy. I think that it's like as long as I'm still in the picture he doesn't have to commit to her fully. Me pulling out of MC so quickly screwed up his plans.
Jin, I wish I had done this. I'm not saying this is what you should or shouldn't do, just that I wish that I had done this. I, too, suspect that perhaps that would've snapped some sense into H. Whether or not that is the case is purely speculative at this point. Ultimately this is a decision that you need to make. I'm just saying that in my sitch, I regret not having taken a much harder line much quicker.
The way you've handled this is very similar to how I've handled my sitch. The major diff is that mine is now in month 13 & no visible end on the horizon. I think you are doing a great job DB'ing - whether for solely you or to R M. Either way, you win.
Hang tough. You can do it.
M & H: 40 M: 5.5 T: 7.5 OW: 7/09 Bomb: 9/09 Sep: 3/10 H files 7/10
