Spent the day "dark" as I have been for the last couple of weeks. H calls several times but I don't answer at all (this may have been a mistake--I think you don't have to call them right away but you need to call back). Had a fun time with a friend going to lunch, etc.
S 15 has an appointment for getting his permit. I call H and tell him and say either he can get it with him or I will do it. He wants to do it, no problem, he asks me to bring him some things for the football game later and I do.
Go to the football game (S plays in the band) and they have plenty of workers in the concession stand, so friend and I end up sitting and watching game. H is the main "griller guy" and so is working. I am looking great, feeling awesome, am flirting and joking and carrying on and this is not any kind of "show", this is just "me" now--free and lovin it!
My son got his permit, and I wanted to take him home after the game to ask him about it. I call and leave a message with H's cell, but apparently he didn't answer or ? and he is waiting outside the band room to take S home. S wants to go to a local ice cream place with friends, which I'm happy to go with. S tells H and H says "Fine, I'll be coming too". I was like "Ok" (I don't care). Then H says "I need to talk to you" and I walk a few feet over and he tells me "You need to be ? beat?(not sure about that part) and have your throat slashed--tell that to your L".
I went numb--this is in front of children, at my son's school. S didn't hear it and perhaps no one else did, but immediately he left and I started to cry. My S comes out and knows something is wrong--we walk to the car and I sit there dumbfounded--and what am I supposed to do now?
This is getting long, so let me just get to it--I ended up calling H's dad to speak to H, and grandpa offers to come up to our house, which S says is fine. S is calling friends and so am I. I am advised to get a police report (this is the second one now) and so I do. Now I have another case number and I am sure my L will have my file something at this point.
S doesn't want to go home, so I offer to meet grandpa and they will take S (this was the plan anyway--H and S were supposed to go to his parents this weekend) Meanwhile I guess my H left for his parents because when I got home his car is gone. If he wasn't gone I had plans to go to a friend's.
I think I have enough now to get him out of here. Obviously the strain is not only on me. And I don't know WHAT to do about the fact that it happened at school and in front of kids. I really wanted my H to be involved over there--there are a lot of great guys there that I was hoping he could talk to.
I just want him out--if this is what had to happen for him to leave, so be it!
