Lin - SO glad to hear from you! Believe it or not - I really use your story as a source of hope!

Rys - I love tennis as well - took a class in college / used to play with H every spring and summer (not competitively) - always wanted to take lessons and play in a league. Maybe it's a good time. Funny - my kids EXCEL in their areas (dance and basketball) - H was a great basketball and tennis player. Me? Nothing...My siblings excelled in basketball too - me...nothing. Always the "nice" girl. In an alcoholic/agoraphobic home I was the caretaker - people pleaser. I've been the stable one. Had the great marriage, great kids, great job. I am in wonderland here...no clue.

I'm 47 and have spent my life in this supporting role. Now what? I guess that's what I am supposed to find out.

Thanks all so much for listening to my whining! I know it gets old!!

M-48/XH-48 M=25/T=28 years
Ds-24,22/S-18
D - 3/11
A Day at a Time