Finding My Way

[newmama]

Mystik, it sucks. Your H wants the D and is being persistent. Get it over with like ripping off a bandaid but also being smart (like you are with using the lawyer for your case).

It doesn't mean reconciliation isn't possible some day years from now, but the fact of the matter is that it is not in the near future...he is hell bent on the divorce.

At least he is totally being clear with you about what he wants and you aren't living in hope due to believing nothing= good news (like I did).

And remember, like people told me, you are already living your life without him. Even if you aren't happy. So you are able to do it.

I just think that people do remarry after divorces so it is best to let him go, be the person you are proud to be, and forget about him for awhile. MURPHY'S LAW says when we are not thinking about them, they come sniffin' around. But I do know first and foremost as every person with kids going through this knows, that it is way way way hard when we have to see the stbx spouse on a regular basis to exchange the kids.