WAW 20 years and wants out

[Virtually_Handsome]

I told her I still have respect for our marriage

ok...

I am LEANING HEAVILY into going dark and dating after the monday MC..

WHAT?

am I freaking losing my mind?

Perhaps.

Dude....
First point, this is going to take a long time. You are looking for a quick solution for a long term problem, and it isn't going to work that way.

Second, dating? Really? That's going to help? Who said that was a good plan?

Third, going dark. Might be a good idea. Not because it will change her, but because you are spinning, and you have to cut off the stimulus to yourself, in my opinion.