Jack, Great thread there from MWD...I read it and emailed it to my wife... I have already consciously made the decision to forgive because forgivness is a gift you give yourself...but everyone benefits from forgivness in the end...wife, children, and yourself... I am glad I found this site when this event first happened because I have gained alot of valuable education on here that has helped me to handle this in a nice calm manner... I read alot here constantly... Thanks for the posts...