W just called to see if I was picking up D5 for soccer practice. First time we'd spoken on phone in 5 days (which I think is the longest ever). I had seen her once at meeting for D5 for ~20-30 min yesterday. I didn't call, text or email all week (per usual).
So, she starts getting weepy on phone, talking about what a funk she had been in all week since she finished a major project. Saying she found herself crying "for no reason." Was binge eating on donuts and trying to vomit, then crying more and getting more depressed. Had to take 2 ativan to "knock herself out to sleep."
I said I was sorry she was feeling that way, it sounded terrible. Asked if she had talked to her therapist about it. She said yeah, but it wasn't that bad on that day. I asked her if she knew what was setting it off or did it come out of the blue? She said she thought it was worse on the nights she didn't have the girls. I validated and said, yeah I saw how that could be hard. Could be rough missing them....I was real sorry she was feeling that way.
I didn't bring anything up re: me, or us, or R or M. This is right thing to do, right? Has to come from her? I'm guessing the funk is partly her feeling the separated life isn't that green after all? (even if it's not about me, about the kids). EDIT: HMM, JUST REALIZED I AM MINDREADING HERE....
Anyway, how best handle this if she brings it up again? Same as I did or did I miss an opportunity? Other suggestions on what to do when the WAS tells you they are miserably sad but don't mention R, etc.?
Last edited by bustorama; 10/15/1011:31 PM.
Me-53 W-49 D22,D18,D15 T-Since-12/2001 Married-9/2004 She Moved Out-5/28/2010 Piecing start-04/2011 Now-together Thread http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2079304
