Sorry, one more thing. Even the fact that he used the home phone instead of his cell irritates me. Maybe he thought I wouldn't pick up if I saw his cell number. With the home phone, obviously I'd pick up because I'd want to know who was calling from inside my house.
I'm at the office 25 minutes away with no chance of leaving anytime soon. He could be hanging out at the house til he has to go to work and I wouldn't know it.
Or....leave him with the key, and make sure whenever you think he MIGHT come over, that there's a dozen roses with a card that says "Thanks for last night! xoxo" attached to it sitting prominently in the living room. Lol!
I have to work tonight at a special event (we have lots of those in the fall), and I'm debating about whether to go home and change or to do it here at the office.
My mom's already agreed to spend the night, so the dogs will be taken care of whether of not I stop at home.
Pros to leaving work soon and going home to get ready for the event:
1) I can do a lot better job of freshening up - might even take another shower and do my hair. 2) I can see what mark - if any - Mr. A left on the house before my mom gets over there.
Cons:
1) Less time at work, and I hate leaving the office for the week with tons of stuff left open-ended. 2) The possibility that there will be something upsetting at the house that will spoil my (already precarious) mood for the event.
Really the practical stuff makes no difference. I'm debating which is the lesser of two evils: to know (what Mr. A did) or not to know...
Like what if he left me some kind of note, for example, and my mom sees it before me and calls me at the event? That's unlikely, but it could happen.
I'd just go home and get it all out of your system that way you have a better chance of relaxing in the evening. If you don't you're going to be wondering about it all night long and not give yourself a chance to just enjoy the evening.
Confession - I'm dying to know whether or not he took his favorite board game, which he just finally taught me how to play. I hope not - I was planning to keep playing!
Oh, Lea, the razor is electric and he loves it for some reason.
Lea, Mr. A wasn't trying to check up on me - he just wanted his razor. I know that because I'm home now and I can tell he just got in and out as soon as possible.
Also, I didn't have to ask him to return the spare key to its proper location - he did that all on his own.
I set a boundary with Mr. A and he totally accepted it. I'm the one who's having such a hard time with it! I relate so much to what Soleil wrote about her emotions over caring for someone who could walk away so easily.
I was surprised that Mr. A came over today. But once I found out he did, a big part of me was hoping there would be some sign (goodness knows what, but something) that he missed me or was thinking twice about his decision. Zip. Zilch. Nada.
Whatever Mr. A is doing doesn't matter, but it's hard not to listen to those voices in my head that say he's off having the time of his life with XXXXXX...... and I'm miserable!
Basically HE dropped the rope on ME and it's driving me crazy!
