I'm less confident that once I let go, he will "wake up".
And if he don't why would you want him. I'm in the same boat your in, I did not want a divorce, I don't believe in divorce, and yet my WAW has caused so much damage that I would never take her back, but if you truly want him back sometimes guchie's way is the only way it ever happens, they have to fear loosing you. DB didn't work for me & wife but it made me strong enough to deal with the sich without being a doormat. I can tell you from my sich being a doormat sucks.
M40, W 37 M 11 1/2 y T 13 y D filed 5-18-10 S 5-29-10 OM1 discovered 6-5-10 Counter sued for d 6-16-10 OM2 discovered 8-10-10 OM3, OM4 4 kids 10, 7, & 3 D date 10-14-10 http://tiny.cc/mxzct
