I'm less confident that once I let go, he will "wake up".
He isn't asleep (well, I suppose we could have a debate about that if its meaning in more spiritual than factual). He was having an affair, and he's emotionally invested with his ex and the allure of a "new life" (or in this case, it's more like when they brought Coke Classic back).
His mistake was in being intimate with an ex (which is, incidentally, why classy, highly confident women will not tollerate you being friendly with your exes) instead of trying to improve the relationship he was in.
It's not up to you to fix this. You can't do it. You can only work on enjoying your own life and making the best of it.
He's the one who needs to step up if this is going to get to the stage where things can be fixed. It's up to him to make a move toward fixing things now, so you just protect yourself and have a good life without him until he decides to man up or you finally get sick of him playing the victim.
M-47,W-40,No kids D-filed 5/27/2010 Piecing - 10/21/2010 -=Soon to be banned=-
