You know, for me, if this were just any OW it might be easier for me. But it is his ex wife. There is history there. She hurt him, bad (left him for another man 20 some-odd years ago). And now she is giving him all he ever wanted. An apology, begging him to take her back, etc. It's unrequited love. It's power, for him. And because of their history, their situation, I'm less confident that once I let go, he will "wake up". I know in my heart and without ego that they won't work out. But still.
Yes, Rob, I have given him permission at times to disregard my feelings and my truth. I got the " I love you but..." speech about 6 months ago, but it's just the way he is choosing to make his move that is so cruel. Why not be a man and leave? Why not stay gone once you have left? Why not go and be with your supposed soul mate? What is he afraid of? Making a mistake?!
Keep working on me guys. I really appreciate it.
Last edited by barbsing1; 10/15/1008:56 PM.
M9+ T 11+ Me42 H44 2 kids under 5 IlYBNILWY -3/10 A discovered late 8/10 H moved out early 9/10 - back two weeks later "Taking a Break" - H moves out 1/2/10
