It is not pursuing when you stand up for yourself.
"We can discuss that when you have calmed down and treat me like an equal"

It is not pusruing when setting a boundary
"I feel disrespected when you continue to give your emotional attention and needs to another man. I have decided I will not live in an open marriage."

M39 W41
Two children
WAW bomb dropped 11/7/09
Piecing Aug 10 - Nov 10
No longer piecing...Nov 10
Separation Jan 11
EA ends again Feb 11
Piecing attempt #2, Mar 11