Yeah, I know. It's all about time and perspective in the end.
When he thinks of his life now, I bet it's all about the bills coming due, the things that need to be fixed, the past regrets, the next argument and so on and so on. Very much past negative, and the future is just a treadmill into more of the same.
The affair was new, exciting, and more importantly had him living in the moment and appreciating things right now.
Too bad--says the male ego--you can't just plop the Playboy Mansion down in the middle of Disney world and use the US Treasury as your personal cash supply. Alas....
You can't fix somebody else's perspective... try as you might. If you don't share their perspective, you might as well be speaking another language.
So... what can you do? Work on yourself, count your blessings, list the things you are grateful for daily, make reasonable plans for the near future, and enjoy all the little things in life. Life is really good when you are not focused on all of your problems all of the time. You're going to be just fine. You can handle things.
If he wants to leave, then it's probably for the best. It's OK. If he wants to stay, he can show enough respect not to go out of his way to rain on your parade when you are having a good time, and go have a good time for right now.
You deserve the respect your earn and accord others. Remember that because you are probably going to need to call him on CB sometimes, and you are not standing in his way or holding him back.
M-47,W-40,No kids D-filed 5/27/2010 Piecing - 10/21/2010 -=Soon to be banned=-
