Not exactly sure what to make of this guys. Any thoughts
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From what little I have read, if she's said that she will not living in an open marriage, and he really has broken off contact with OW, then what boundary is she enforcing?
That is the problem with catching these things later. A lot of the advice given applies more succintly to somebody who is unrepentent and has an ongoing affair.
You get into a gray area with situations where the affair has ended without a willingess to re-commit to trying to work on the marriage. It's a zombie-like limbo. Not good stuff. You're almost better off catching the thing early while there is no chance that your spouse might repent, asking them to leave, and then going into protection mode unless they re-appear and try to win you back and are all in. At least then the boundaries that need to be set and enforced are obvious.
Takes a lot more digging into the situation and a lot more nuance to ferret out which boundaries are lacking and require enforcement when one spouse isn't all in or willing to commit and just being nasty.
Last edited by TimeHeals; 10/15/1007:51 PM.
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