Thank you all for your input. Hearing what you are saying makes me wonder why the DB coach says I should let him stay in the house. The DB coach is definitely not saying this because it's assumed that is what I want to hear. As I mentioned earlier, intuitive for me = asking him to leave. Counter-intuitive=doing what I'm doing now.
Rob - thanks for posting another response. Perhaps I am quick to assume I'm being demeaned because that's what I'm letting H do to me. I totally get why you wrote what you did. I wish I could have you and Coach sitting on either shoulder whispering to me what to say to him when I decide to make my move. Again, it's hard for me to be cruel so I can't fathom using any page out of H's rulebook.
M9+ T 11+ Me42 H44 2 kids under 5 IlYBNILWY -3/10 A discovered late 8/10 H moved out early 9/10 - back two weeks later "Taking a Break" - H moves out 1/2/10
