You get her respect back by calling her out on the CB.
I know you can at least do this. You are retired military. Would you allow a subordinate or an equal ranked co-worker treat you with this CB...I doubt it. Go back to your military methods. Calm, decisive, to the point, not mean but very matter of fact this is how we operate best.
Very important and easy to overlook.
We let small things go thinking it's no big deal. Then we let bigger things go because we don't want to argue or fight about it, it will just go away on it's own. Pretty soon, these things pile up and become one great big ball of resentment. We stop standing up for ourselves and for what's right.
Don't be afraid of your W. Like GW said; calm, decisive and to the point.
I'm still working on it myself, but it can and must be done. You can do it!
