XH is marrying OW after only 5 months of D!!

[lea74]

Thanks you are both so right - I do give them far too much of my brain power.
I think if I thought she was a decent person I might feel slightly differently. But to date, she has showed nothing but selfishness and disrespect. She has never (IMHO) tried to make things easier for my sons - I am sure she will disagree though.

She used to send me really mean texts, so I had to get my L to write to her and tell her to stop - this was before the D finalised. She has called my sons names and also wont allow them to have the same routine in her house. She shouts at XH in front of them and talks trash about me in front of them as well. She has attended my son's football matches, spent his birthday with him (I wasnt allowed to), attend open evening at my son's school and has apparently got some input into my S10 secondary school. I honestly feel like she is trying to replace me.

I think in a pervserse way she does care about my kids - but my suspicions are that she cant have kids so uses mine as her kid fix! We had an incident where the police had to be called as she was verbally abusing me in front of my house - in front of my kids and XH. (No he didnt have my back!!)

I dont hate her - I just want nothing to do with her. I know that I am expecting too much and will need to get over it.

My XH keeps screaming co-parenting however never includes me in a decision about my sons and keeps just telling me what is going to happen, even when he left he stills feels he has the right to.

You are right - my kids need both parents. But one of their parents is in the honeymoon phase right now and everything is very rosy coloured.

I guess this all may change when I finally have a someone special of my own who will share a life with my sons.

(((back at you))))