thanks for your reply. I know Im a lot happier when i go on with my life and not think about h. This has been a sad week for me because I went to lawyer to sign d papers but wont be ready for 1 month I can change my mind if i decide to. my h is a spendaholic and i worry we are going to lose everything because of his debt. I dont want to live in fear anymore I have to trust God. Hope you are having a good day. I see you are from the northeast like me.