Update: I'm feeling a lot of emotional pain right now. Last night after dinner, DH wanted to cuddle and kiss on the couch, which is often the precursor to sex. Also, he's spent the past almost-a-week being more loving than usual (more compliments, cuddling, better kissing, that happy look on his face, etc.)
Anyway, after we'd cuddled a while and I was starting to feel encouraged, he gently told me he just didn't feel like it tonight (he had sensed I was believing we were leading up to it). He added that he had been in the mood on Tuesday night, but I was late getting home from work.
I then said if I'd known he was in the mood Tuesday, I would have made a better effort to get home earlier. He then said I should get home on time anyway for better balance, not just bcs we're going to have sex.
I can't help feeling like last night, he was punishing me for being late on Tues. by acting the way he normally does to start sex, then stopping it.
We haven't done it since Aug. 31. The best thing I have for him is the thing he doesn't seem to want. Sometimes he gets in bad moods over things that have been happening in his family. Lately, I've been having some bad things happen in my family, too; and I've been very unhappy about it. For me, sex would be a comfort - it would make everything all better. Probably for him, when he's unhappy, that's the last thing he wants. I can respect that, and I don't pester him when he's bumming about his family.
Not really asking for advice here; I know what I need to do (GAL, 180, read all the damn books [g], etc.) I'm feeling very hurt and sad and confused, and I just need to vent.
