A new beginning to an end

[ClingingToHope]

I was all for trying to settle things amicably -- even though I didn't want the D -- but then STBXW misconstrued some things we talked about in February and she got an attorney and that forced me to get an attorney.

Do they have anything similar to collaborative divorce in your state? In that system, you both retain lawyers but you sign agreements that you are going to reach a settlement before going to court.

The lawyers then act as advisors. Your STBXH could say I'd like to have the house and you have this and your collaborative L could give you advice.

The only problem is if it doesn't work then you have to start from scratch with new attorneys.

It sounds like you are emotionally invested in the house. I wouldn't give it up without making sure it was in your best interest.

STBXW is living in the house my parents owned when I was a kid -- but I chose to let her have it. It was strategic in my part. I don't think there's any way she can hold on to it long term. By the time she gets out from under it I should be well on my way to being able to afford my own.