I think all of you responding to my post are men - hard to tell with the screen names. If not, I do apologize. And men know men. How you are all wired. What works, what doesn't. But why would this work?? If the goal is to reconcile with him, what does kicking him out do (other than ending the current drama, it creates a different kind of drama, not just for me but for my beautiful children as well). Will he start to miss me/us? Will that "missing" be authentic? When he left the first time, I toughened up and that is when he came back. But to what end? Obviously he wasn't ready to come back - so why did he? Creature comforts? And if I ask him to leave, he will go to her. She is going full-court press right now - sending him pornographic pictures of herself (masturbating) via e-mail. She is appealing to an organ I can't at the moment. I'm trying to appeal to the heart. And you ask why I would want a man like this? Actually, I don't. I want my old H back. Not this dude. I have no stinkin' idea who this dude is. Never seen him before a couple of months ago.
And do you men know how I should handle this based upon your own experiences, either as the WAH or the LBS?? If so, please, please share with me. Connecting with people who have used methods that are successful helps me so much - hearing about their process helps so much.
Gr8 - not to be "braggy", but I do look good. And hey! I even smell good too But regardless, right now I can't compete with her "golden punani", you know? Not sure why I would want to as she is obviously not a person of character and quality. But still.
M9+ T 11+ Me42 H44 2 kids under 5 IlYBNILWY -3/10 A discovered late 8/10 H moved out early 9/10 - back two weeks later "Taking a Break" - H moves out 1/2/10
But regardless, right now I can't compete with her "golden punani", you know? Not sure why I would want to as she is obviously not a person of character and quality. But still.