Thank you ladies. Really.

more selfish behavior. i guess it is just the norm.

About a month or so ago x bought another dog for d14. This one was a jack russell terrier. Long story behind this but he wanted one when we were married (we already have 2 dogs) one of the few times I said NO.

Well..... since new lady and son moved in aparently she has become bad. she was kinda having issues before.. but it has "worsened" so what does he do but begin to "prepare the way" to get rid of her.

Last night she got the phone call that he was going to have to get rid of her...

d14 sobbed. it was something he purchased FOR HER specifically. He said it was.

I am now being put in a real crappy situation.. I have a plan.. which is to tell him I need X amount of $$ to do dog training and I want her shots up-to-date... and then I will take her.

He won't do it... he may but I will be surprised. THe money and the dog have to come on the same day. He is not trustworthy to do it later.

I told d14 the idea... she is ok with it. BUT KNOWS that this is not what I want.... but I will AGAIN pick up his crap and clean up his mess....

4 weeks in a row that he has done something to BREAK her heart!!! She and I had a REAL heart to heart about WHO he is last night... he led teh way on this one.

I told her he was selfish and mean. That you don't just throw away something because it isn't working for you. I told her to start gaurding her heart ... not that she shouldn't love him.. but when she gets that "feeling" in her stomach that he is plotting his way to prepare herself.

What is sad.. She KNEW what I meant. She has experienced it tons lately. He has just gotten faster at his moves.

Hurting me.. that was one thing. My KIDS.. ANOTHER.

This am when we were on our way to school I told her this.

"you know how I was/am about your dad hurting you? well have you noticed I am that way about anyone hurting you? I am a momma bear.. you are my bear cub... someone hurts you and I wanna bite their head off." I told her that it wasn't "HER DAD" it was someone hurting her that I was angry at....

She got it... doesn't make it any easier though.


M-20 years/BOMB 12/24/06
Moved out 3/12/07
D final 7/30/2008
finding myself again