I'm trying to learn this DB stuff, but I thought John was "going dark." Are we supposed to call our wife and talk about the relationship when we're going "dark" or "dim"?
Sorry for the stupid questions, but this is something I struggle with.
Starsky
M 38 W 37 S 8 D 7
John is our George Costanza of DB. Watch what he does, then do the opposite in your own R.
No, but seriously, maybe the contents of my post last night were a little off (with me laughing in all). I'm not really laughing. I'm just moving away from all this situation and when I look at it from the outside it seems, well, somewhat dramatically hilarious.... which all of you have been witnessing for a while now.
----"Et tu, Brute?"---- me:28 W:24 S4 T:6 M:4 EA Exposed: 5/21/10 Bomb: 6/20/10 (Father's Day) NC w/ OM: 7/10/10 W moved out 8/21/10 http://bit.ly/aOrZne - My sitch
No, but seriously, maybe the contents of my post last night were a little off (with me laughing in all). I'm not really laughing. I'm just moving away from all this situation and when I look at it from the outside it seems, well, somewhat dramatically hilarious.... which all of you have been witnessing for a while now.
It is dramatically hilarious, also awful. You want to look away but you can't. Either way, I do think you're doing ok, you just need to remember to do these things for you, not to spite your wife or anything like that. It's not about revenge, it's just about moving on, don't bring extra drama and don't fall into hers.
Me: 24 H: 26 2 SS: 7 & 5; D: 3 H filed D papers: 8/2/10 OW discovered: 08/10 D papers counter-filed: 10/2/10 There is no method to my madness
I came home to my house for lunch today, W called me earlier this morning and wanted to know if she could pick up some of her things from the house. I told her that was fine, just go in and get them if I am not there.
So when I came home from lunch, all the dishes in the house had been put in the dishwasher. I've been procrastinating about doing them and was planning on doing them this evening. They had already been done, and there's a note left in the sink: "Friends don't let friends live like that. Don't let it get that bad again. Love You"
This is pretty big for her because she is an acts of service LL. Interesting.
----"Et tu, Brute?"---- me:28 W:24 S4 T:6 M:4 EA Exposed: 5/21/10 Bomb: 6/20/10 (Father's Day) NC w/ OM: 7/10/10 W moved out 8/21/10 http://bit.ly/aOrZne - My sitch
We've all had dysfunctional relationships in our past, and if both parties are unable to really detatch, then the likely outcome is a competition to see who walks away forever first.
Ugh. I think you are right TH!
But I will say I am proud of John for saying this.. .and just praying he actually sticks to it... do it, John!
I told her I didn't want to work on this M anymore, or the R, and I frankly didn't want to be friends anymore. We've caused too much damage to each other and I didn't want anything to really do with her anymore. I would remain civil for the sake of our child, but I would prefer if we could just move on with our lives.
Stop beating up on me people!