Bwaaaahaha. Really, I'm laughing right now. I'm so cold it's not funny. _________________________
Well, I'm glad you're getting a thrill out of this.
Not the way I would have handled this personally, but you're an original to be sure.
Under similiar circumstances, the only thing I would have said is this: "Look, we're not going to be buddies. No respectable woman is going to want to be with a man who is best buddies with his ex-wife, and try as I might, I cannot imagine a woman I would want to be with saying to me, 'Honey, let's invite your ex-wife over for dinner'. It's not going to happen, and I know it.".
End of conversation about being buddies. No "bwahahaha" childish joy in another's anguish (even if they have been asking for you to move on all of this time). I'd just live my life and enjoy it even though you have to deal with some unpleasant stuff along the way.
What you needed to do was level set expectations: we're not going to be buddies because that's not how real-life works. End of story. Nothing more needed to be said.
For somebody who has lovingly detatched, you sure do have a lot to say to this woman, talk to her often about non-child-related stuff, and take an odd joy in the idea that she might be unhappy getting what she has been asking for all along.
M-47,W-40,No kids D-filed 5/27/2010 Piecing - 10/21/2010 -=Soon to be banned=-
I'm trying to learn this DB stuff, but I thought John was "going dark." Are we supposed to call our wife and talk about the relationship when we're going "dark" or "dim"?
Sorry for the stupid questions, but this is something I struggle with.
OK, maybe "dim," cuz they have a child they need to talk about? Are we supposed to be chatting with them when we've gone "dim?"
I don't know that John's ever really gone dim either. The general rule I've gotten for going "dim" and having a child is that you only talk about things absolutely necessary for the child. You're kiddo ends up in ER, you call . . . your kiddo skins their knee, you don't. Things like that.
Me: 24 H: 26 2 SS: 7 & 5; D: 3 H filed D papers: 8/2/10 OW discovered: 08/10 D papers counter-filed: 10/2/10 There is no method to my madness
It's kind of sad to read really. They both sound addicted to the drama, and this is not an arguement either of them can really win. This path of opening new and old wounds just leads to dissolution, and then you move on and start a new life. That may or may not be for the best. I don't know. We've all had dysfunctional relationships in our past, and if both parties are unable to really detatch, then the likely outcome is a competition to see who walks away forever first.
M-47,W-40,No kids D-filed 5/27/2010 Piecing - 10/21/2010 -=Soon to be banned=-
It's kind of sad to read really. They both sound addicted to the drama, and this is not an arguement either of them can really win. This path of opening new and old wounds just leads to dissolution, and then you move on and start a new life. That may or may not be for the best. I don't know. We've all had dysfunctional relationships in our past, and if both parties are unable to really detatch, then the likely outcome is a competition to see who walks away forever first.
What happens when you tie two yo yo balls together?
It's kind of sad to read really. They both sound addicted to the drama, and this is not an arguement either of them can really win. This path of opening new and old wounds just leads to dissolution, and then you move on and start a new life. That may or may not be for the best. I don't know. We've all had dysfunctional relationships in our past, and if both parties are unable to really detatch, then the likely outcome is a competition to see who walks away forever first.
What happens when you tie two yo yo balls together?
That analogy makes me laugh. But I think you're right.
Me: 24 H: 26 2 SS: 7 & 5; D: 3 H filed D papers: 8/2/10 OW discovered: 08/10 D papers counter-filed: 10/2/10 There is no method to my madness
That analogy makes me laugh. But I think you're right.
Perpetual Motion - hypothetical machines that produce more work or energy than they consume.
My old HS - Our Lady of Perpetual Motion.
M22,H45,W45 S21/18D12 Retain faith that you will prevail in the end, regardless of the difficulties and at the same time confront the most brutal facts of your current reality, whatever they might be.
