My 40 year old wife's MLC

[Bworl]

Ask yourself Troy, what does a woman want from a husband?

She wants a protector.
She wants a provider.
She wants a friend.
She wants a nurturing father for their children.
She wants a lover.
She wants affection and romance.
She wants an equal partner.
She wants someone who shares all and with whom she can share all.
She wants a man that she is proud of.



I'm sure there are other thoughts, these are the first that come to mind for me.


At some point in your relationship, you brought many if not all of these things to the table. That was the foundation of her falling in love with you.


Your consistency in being all of these things gave her the confidence to enter into marriage with you and to choose to spend her life with you.


So what changed?


Your business, yes.
Your finances, yes.
The pressures of kids and their schedules, yes.


But what changed in YOU?

Which ones of those things above did you STOP being for your wife? Which parts of her lifetime husband did she slowly but surely begin to LOSE?


Don't misunderstand me. I am not trying to pin the blame of your marital woes solely on you.

I want you to understand what has happened in your wife's life that has brought her to the point that she no longer feels SAFE in sharing her life with you.


And I especially want you to THINK, long and hard, as you make each future decision and step. Because you can be SURE that your wife continues to weigh your words and actions against the man that she was promised when the two of you were married.

Did you think of yourself first when you were courting?

Was your future more important than hers when you were dating?

Did you have the desire to punish her for her mistakes when you were engaged?


This marital crisis is an opportunity for you to realize how far you have strayed from the man that you once were. It's a chance for you to look honestly at yourself and acknowledge that you have allowed life to turn you into a man you never planned to be.


Regardless of the final outcome, being able to FIX what has become slack in you is important to your future.

The fact that a return to consistency in being that man she fell in love with might actually appeal to her is simply an added bonus.


Get off the panic train. Calm yourself down. Look inside yourself and be honest. Reclaim who you are.


Blessings,

Bill