CTY, if anyone should not be dating, besides me, on the BB it is you! You're still way too attached to your wife and the current situation. She's still a constant topic in your posts and not just about the practical stuff but also about your emotional responses to her. It's way too early to date for you! If you are going to take this woman to the Green Ball (and I doubt she will go cuz usually a "I'll let you know" is a "how do I get out of this", in my limited experience anyway) then do so as friends and let her know you are looking for a friend to go with and you're not looking for anything more right now. Also, I've said it before, I think you need to take some time to be with you...alone. You are so busy keeping busy that it makes me wonder what you're trying to keep from thinking about or dealing with. I know everyone has different activity levels and some need less time alone than others but this is my sense with you...take it or leave it. So, I'm not trying to rain on your parade but just give you somethinhg to ponder when you're in the car rushing from one activity to the other. OMG, you're meeting an engaged woman at 5:00 am to do what??? Deep breathe, my man!!!!