Partner left after 9 yrs - reconciled now married!

[AliSuddenly]

Thanks Sunny!

Well, I'm ok physcially, not sick, bit tired but otherwise ok.

But I have one major problem that I dont like to complain about... I'm very lonely, apart from the fact I have H's company (whose missing friendships too), but I dont want to lean on him too much, or put 'all my eggs in one basket' like I used to pre bomb.. so I try and try to maintain regular contact with many different friends, old and new and yet, we're a bit isolated in Cornwall and the longer we have left home (4 years now) the less old friends phone us. Apart from our very best friends - a couple of gf's and a couple of H's mf, noone phones! We have made some new friends here, but some weeks, we struggle to have arrangements to socialise.. and then other weeks, we end up seeing 3 couples for a bit. Nothing regular.

I dont know what to do as this is only going to get worse if I am home with a baby (or babies!). My gf's say that I can join Mother and baby groups.. but as friends have drifted away since we got back together, I am feeling paranoid about my ability to even make and keep friendships with other new mums I might meet!

Its not just me.. old friends of H are also no longer calling him and he feels lonely and hurt by this too (but still, very happy to spend all of his time with me). We are best friends at least.

We got alot of support when we were apart (for which we have thanked everyone and gave them a smashing wedding party and I thanked them in my speech!!).. and when we got back together often people said they didnt phone becuase they 'didnt want to intrude'. But thats all in the past now.

Perhaps this is just what happens when you get older. All our friends have young children and have busy lives. But still.. friendships need working at. One of H's bestest, oldest friends who H was best man for, had another baby (last year) but hasnt phoned him for months! Thats just not acceptable. Theres only so many times you can be the one to keep making the call before you feel you should stop chasing.

Like I said, I dont like to complain, because I know I am blessed to get H back and be pg.

PS: Maria, you are not included in this! I'm talking about people closer to home.