Sounds like you did well tonight my friend. And you also sound like you are starting to look at all of this more as an intellectual problem vs an emotional one. It's almost like a science really, and if weren't so gutwrenching it would be fascinating to understand how a relationship operates under this WAS stuff.

Continued good luck with your detaching.

M-34
XW-32
D-7
Found OM's presence 4/09
Separated 12/09
Divorced 8/10
GREAT relationship
as coparents since 8/10