WAW 20 years and wants out

[Pensacolabroken]

Thanks folks for the thoughtful replies.

I invited her to MC today.. she didn;t show. Noticed an improvement from her regarding over all friendly attitude etc.. she actually was talking to her sister on the phone in my presence.. before all was super secret squirrel in the bed room.. I simply told her I enjoyed my therapy and she is invited to the next session on Monday after she gets off work for more convienent time. Again she said she would think about it.

Pin head.. I gave her permission because I sensed her lonliness. When you are deployed 8000 miles away you have very few options. A career in the military, I have seen and counseled many on destroyed marriages.. I thought if it was open it wouldnt be "an affair" a mistake in hindsight.
and Pinhead,, make no mistake she is being honorable and DOESNT want an open marriage and neither do I.

I love her..

MC said she this is quite common in military dynamic.. I had no idea.. I need to get my wife to discuss this clinically, however, I have wasted all my "silver bullets" doing triage..

oddly enough.. Wife is making her presence more "known" since I went to MC and she declined..

not sure where I am..

still doing the 180's

If I can convince her to go to MC without breaking the 180's...