We actually already have a mediator on retainer...I'm the one who called her on her crap behavior and told her we are divorcing in July after OM called the police on me. Apparently telling someone to stop talking to your wife is a threat...well only if you are a POSOM.
What do you do when there's a major disaster looming on the horizon? You prepare big time! I would not 'mediate' with someone I absolutely do not trust and I know will likely hurt me and who is not in a healthy state of mind. Independently protect and shore up your assets, your kids and yourself FIRST before considering the next possible step - addressing (Dobson's choice, DBing or whatever) and/or serving her with 'D' if necessary. Given how the system works and the predicament you're in that's the prudent path. You don't have a lot of time on your hands to be in a state of false hope or "co-dependence".
