caution flag in my head especially when I read this:
Originally Posted By: Albuquerque
The girlfriend thing is rapidly becoming a non-issue. I'll let you know when it's fully a non-issue. That was one of those things that was an attempt, like moving out and trying to change things at work, to address my underlying unhappiness and frustration.
It almost seems he is saying "I will be right with you. Just
hang on a minute, I have to finish this sandwich."
I know what you mean. I'm OK with it not being immediate. I'm not OK with it taking a month. So somewhere in the middle I guess is my happy medium. I know he's built up a large circle of friends and professional contacts through her. Knowing him (and assuming he's serious about what he's saying), I have no doubt he's trying to extricate himself without damaging those additional relationships. I don't think it's possible. But he'll have to figure that out. I don't feel it's in my best interest to force the issue. It's his choice. HE needs to do it without me asking (which I haven't). So I'll give him the space and time he needs to do it. I am well aware that it may not actually happen. I can't say I'm prepared for that kind of blow, but I wouldn't be surprised. MLC has taught me that nothing is out of the question.
As for me, I continue to act pretty much as I did previously (although I have a hard time resisting occasional make out sessions when he's around). If he engages me via text/phone/email/IM, which is a LOT more often, I respond as I did before. Since he's asking ME a lot of questions about myself and my life, I'm telling him more. But I'm still not offering a lot. I still haven't initiated "fun texts" to him. I only contact about D and scheduling. I still leave my IM off most of the time. But he has definitely ramped up his desire to spend time with us. He told me today that he officially made his appointment with an IC for Monday. I think that's a good step and hope it serves him well. He actually looked to see when a certain movie was playing so that we could all go out together (it's no longer playing). So thus far, he has been following through on some of the things he's said he'd do.
PEI, I look forward to hearing your thoughts and perspective.
"Love me when I least deserve it, for that is when I need it the most"
M18 Me39,H42 D16 Bomb 1/10 Moved out 3/10 OW 6/10 H wants to R,OW gone 11/10 H moves back 5/11 H wants to wear rings again 9/11
