I can relate to the redhead thing. My nephew had a 5 year old daughter who is a redhead- she is headstrong and very bright,same as your daughter sounds like she is.I think it just takes a bit more finesse dealing with a redhead~ You will get there.
Your book sounds amazing and is the genre I love to read. When published all of us DBer's will buy copies.
You seem more in control now and stronger than when I first started reading your thread. I am sure it shows at work and at home. Your W will most likely arrive at the same place you are at in time. Everyone is so vastly different, we need to be patient (I am not patient!) and let the spouse come to us when they are ready.
My H has walked away from me in every way except physically since we are still sharing his home.In my heart, I feel he will regret the D, but maybe that is just some left over wishful thinking on my part. I am doing great now though and I am ready to face the end of H and I's M when we part in December 2010.
