not to burst your bubble but reading your post and then you making this statement:

"...I know my wife still loves me. I know she misses what we had and what could be. She’s just so full of pride it’s disgusting."

How do you know she still loves you?

I think she found herself a babysitter by having you stay with her so that she can go out and stay out late with her friends.

How do you know she loves you?
By her actions? By her words?

Tell me, I'm interested in knowing your secret.