Okay just ONCE I want to see someone follow the advice STRAIGHT up from the get-go. Please please be this person, Prooney!
DO THIS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Originally Posted By: robx
When you actually get her to sit down, you tell her "look I've been thinking about things and I've decided that I agree with you, we should separate and get a divorce. I'm not going to spend weeks or months trying to convince you or anyone else to be with me. Life is too short for that. Since you've been seeing this other guy, I have to assume stuff has happened between the two of you and I can't settle for someone who would cheat on their spouse and I'm no one's second option and I won't wait for you to have your fun & freedom with this guy and then later decide it was a mistake and want to come back home. If it's easy enough for you to get a boyfriend, I think it's easy enough for me to find a new girlfriend. I've gotten a few legal consultations and I will be filing for joint custody, 50/50 shared custody and I will get it. You will need to look for another place to live, the sooner the better, you wanted a divorce and you wanted to find another boyfriend, well now you can have that and you can also be the one to move out. It wasn't my decision to end the marriage and break up the family, it was yours but I can handle your decision and I can make a few more decisions of my own concerning all of this. I don't want you sleeping in the master bedroom anymore, you can sleep in the kids rooms or the couch, basement, whatever, that part is up to you. I will help you pack your things, I can bring home moving boxes from work tomorrow and I can even help you move your things to your new place when you find it. I will set up a separate chequing account, and list expenses so that you can start paying your half around here. That's all I have to say for now and I won't be discussing this any further, I've made up my mind and this is WHAT I WANT. We can still be civil with regards to being parents but that's it, I hope you understand."
Get up, leave the room, pull out your phone, call someone, anyone, don't mention their name on the phone, just say something like "Hey you wanted to go out for some coffee, I can meet you in @ 30min., cool, see you in a bit, bye!" If the wife follows you, and starts to ask questions and talk or even get argumentative, just put up your hand in a stop motion and tell her that you've said your peace and don't want to talk about it anymore, you need space from her after what's she's done.
