No I really dont know what i'm dealing with. I do know he is very upset about her not taking him to meet any of her family. Thats why she has brought the kids around him. She has no one else. They are all dead set against her decisions. Especially since all of her family (30 from her side) were at my home for thanksgiving last monday and she just dropped off the kids and left. Not even a hello to her grandmother.
I dont know what his mindset is, having a hard time putting myself into his shoes. He is dating someone with a 20 year relationship (she wont sign off on divorce), the loss of her 4 children and now her family. I guess I was trying to give him a reality check. Kinda to say "wake up", you can never truly be a part of her life. The kids know who you are, eventually they will get past the OM is fun stage.
I am here to get advise from the experts, those that have paved the road ahead of me. I am lost, i never would have expected to be 34, separated with custody of my 2 children and my 2 step children, have my MIL and BIL living in my home and my wife shacked up with some smuck.
