so I ignored it and I spied a lot myself. Here's why I think it backfires...because you start to only see your WAW spouse as someone you have to check up on. You end up finding things out that you may absolutely not be able to forget, forgive, tolerate, etc. It crippled my ability to think clearly really, because all the time I spent spying and then going crazy over what I found out could have been better spent improving me.
This ^^^^^^^ is why
You don't snoop.
You WILL do it. Believe me.
It will be painful. You will do it till you stop or go crazy.
Then you are back to the two choices GK described.
Snooping doesn't lead to divorce it leads to the pain that makes you want punish and give up.
It will make you angrier and make you feel more like a
LEFT BEHIND SPOUSE
GK speaks from experience and that is what we base our advice on. That and the advice of others who lived it too.
What does this information you gather do for YOU?
For your goals?
My goal is to some day be the person my dog thinks I am
