My 40 year old wife's MLC

[ericmsant2]

Troy

I am sorry that you find yourself here....the best place that you do not want to be at.

First off, if your wife is in MLC. This is a long process and so the first thing you will need to ask yourself is if you are up for the challenge of sticking this out.

Have you read the divorce remedy?

Cadet will be around shortly with some resources that YOU really have to read. It is important that you understand what you are dealing with. Right now, this is ABOUT your W and HER issues.

A couple of other points...

1) You cannot control another person BUT you can control YOU?
2) Patience is key
3) Think about what YOU want in YOUR life
4) Nothing you say right NOW will change her mind.
5) You must try and OUTLAST her crisis

We did not speak this morning I walked out to go to work and did not say goodbye which is her usual tactic to hurt me.

Right now is a good time for you to remain silent.

What do you want to do? I cannot live like I am anymore. I am ready to get on with my life.

So what do YOU want to do?

In terms of the email I would not respond. If she brings it up again, I would say that "I am not ready to discuss this right now" then....just listen to what she has to say.

Breath and stay calm.

Can you let me know where you feel you may have contributed to the break up of the M?

As for the legal aspect...

You need to figure out what YOU want. If you want to be divorced then keep bringing it up.

Oh as for the support perspective....

Are you more interested in 1) keeping money in your wallet 2) saving your M or 3) saving yourself and in turn maybe saving your M?

You may not see it now...BUT...you will be okay.

God Bless,
Eric