Wife got ready for bed climbed in bed and started pushing my legs away from her. I naturally asked her if something is wrong and she said that she needed some space and I'm not giving it to her.
I then told my wife "you know what your right I think we both need some space because I have a lot to think about as well and I need to decide if my needs are being met" She responded something to the affect of good luck trying to find someone as good as her. I replied "I could say the same to you" then I rolled over and went to sleep.
Give her all the space she needs starting now. GAL your butt off.
Not to much to drink but when we R talk (which I know we shouldn't) and wine is involved it's hit or miss. Since we started piecing, She has it in her head that she is the one taking me back.
Have plans with a male friend tonight.
Did she have an affair previous to all of this? If so what are the details of this affair? What happened, how long ago did it happen, how long did it go on for, etc.
If she really has the idea that she is taking you back, it's the wrong idea for her to have if she is the one who originally had an affair and this is something you will need to correct before anything you get any positive momentum in any direction other than this one you're currently on.
I have a lot to think about as well and I need to decide
She really wants you to call her out on the CB. She is being disrespectful and knows it. She wants her man to fight for her by letting her know he won't put up with her BS. She wants you to stand up to her feelings and lead.
M22,H45,W45 S21/18D12 Retain faith that you will prevail in the end, regardless of the difficulties and at the same time confront the most brutal facts of your current reality, whatever they might be.
Did she have an affair previous to all of this? If so what are the details of this affair? What happened, how long ago did it happen, how long did it go on for, etc.
If she really has the idea that she is taking you back, it's the wrong idea for her to have if she is the one who originally had an affair and this is something you will need to correct before anything you get any positive momentum in any direction other than this one you're currently on.
Yes...she had an EA from Dec - Sep...she slept with OM while we were separated. She is in NC with OM...that I can verify.
M-43 FWW-42 T 20 M 16 DD10 DD8 EA: 1/10 Informal separation: 6/11/2010 Headed for D: 7/6/2010 Piecing? 9/10/10
She really wants you to call her out on the CB. She is being disrespectful and knows it. She wants her man to fight for her by letting her know he won't put up with her BS. She wants you to stand up to her feelings and lead.
So say something along the lines of "no, I think I'll stay here with my family"
M-43 FWW-42 T 20 M 16 DD10 DD8 EA: 1/10 Informal separation: 6/11/2010 Headed for D: 7/6/2010 Piecing? 9/10/10
Give her all the space she needs starting now. GAL your butt off.
Yes...going out with a male friend tonight, meeting another friend Saturday...have no kids tomorrow night originally proposed date night but I think I'll pop into a movie alone instead.
When we first started piecing she told me "I don't want you to lose contact with your male friends" so I make plans with my male friends and she wants me to sleep at my parents? WTF???
M-43 FWW-42 T 20 M 16 DD10 DD8 EA: 1/10 Informal separation: 6/11/2010 Headed for D: 7/6/2010 Piecing? 9/10/10
