The difference 3 months has made in my life

[ericmsant2]

TAMF,

Here is what I see….

AND just FTR, you know your H and YOURSELF better than anyone else.

He may be processing…yes…he may. Your sitch is a lot like Alb’s and what concerns me is that as a male…he might be thinking that although he knows that you are NOT okay with OW…you may be willing to deal with it, which really alleviates any pressure he may feel to 1) look at himself 2) realize that he does not have to change a thing…at least for now and 3) as I would say….chit or get off the fuc*ing pot.

Question is...does she know about me?

To me the bigger questions is…..how long will continue to give yourself to a man that has not committed to YOU?

I am not trying to beat on you TAMF. As a man I will tell you that he just may be losing some respect for YOU. He may be very happy to keep things status quo. I get some from the girlfriend and I get some from home. Cool.

Question # 2 – can you have a open M? Hey, I’m not knocking it either. Not my cup of tea per se BUT to each is own.

Question # 3 – You say you are strong (our FB message), can you be strong enough to stand up for what YOU believe in? Do you believe that an open R is healthy?

Look sweetie, honestly I am not trying to piss you off or tell you what you did was wrong. Nah….as I said…part of me is a little jealous. I just want to make sure that at the end of the day, YOU do not walk away feeling used and taken advantaged off.

He is caught in a web of lies and secrets and confusion and pain and anger

Is he? Or is he and YOU caught in this web.

Is this the web you want to be tangle in?

Once again, JMO – either way I hope that he realizes what he has and comes running home.

Hey one other question….

Are you in this for the immediate return or the long term return?

As I suggested...go read PEI and Missher's thread.

God Bless,
Eric