You could have responded but I don't think it would have changed anything. He seems pretty blatant about what he wants. the only thing I think is screwy is him demanding/telling you that you hae to move away. You don't have to go anywhere. If you want to stay in your town, why not? He isn't a dictator who gets to decide where you live and when and how. He is understandably upset and hurt but that doesn't mean he gets to tell you where you live and you have agree to everything he says. It doesn't work that way.
In the wise words of one (well, two) great friends here... ClingingToHope and ImprovedRomeo....... Don't be a martyr!
Yeah you were wrong but that doesn't mean you just agree to whatever he wants and the divorce and you leave so he can be happy that you are no longer in his immediate radius.
If you aren't in agreement, contest it. Did your L respond to the petition already? I would advise you do that and soon...
Your Mom is on your side and is listening to you on the phone so that is good.
How is your IC going?
Counselor thinks NOT moving away is a bad idea. I told her last week I'm moving out of the house, but staying in town. She told me I was in denial and grasping at straws hoping he'll change his mind. We'll I'm sure that's true, but this is my decision the time being. Maybe in 3 months I'll decide that moving out of town is the right thing to do, but for now, I need to stay put and carefully plan any steps I take. Running away from my problem isn't the answer for me at this time. Right now I'm looking for a new counselor.
I can't contest the divorce. We're in a no-fault state, so I can only negotiate on the terms of the divorce, but I can't contest it. That's not even an option. I wish it was.
He can have the house, I don't want to be in there without him. But I am not ready to just get out of town either. I'll get nothing out of this divorce. There are no assets to split. I have a job with mediocre pay that supplemented our income and helped us to make ends meet. Neither of us were savers.
