I will be putting MAJOR effort into doing things differently, losing the anger/resentment in front of her has been a huge hurdle for me.
Her happiness will no longer be my problem. I have been letting her struggle with her choices, yes she get FURIOUS, trys to guilt me into helping her, because as she says, "it is for your kids". I don't fall for that anymore.
I am guilty of R talks, being moody, sulking, all of the wring things you mentioned... No More! I will take your advice regarding Halloween, I don't want to miss it for the kids ske and mine. I agree with your take on making positive memories, I do intend to do my best on main holidays & big occassions to be there for the kids. That's it! I also intend to create great memories without her, because I need to for me.
