Wow plowing thorugh the reading fascinating stuff. Journalling I think I am lucky in many ways. H is still very attached to girls although at first (lasting about 6 weeks) he just didn't seem to care really and did things that hurt them. Not now.
Ow gets very little of his money. He pays well over what he has to, thank goodness.
He talks alot about what we will be doing with our house. I do not listen to this although it is hard on the girls if they hear this type of thing becasue then they start asking questions. They seem to instinctively know not to ask him and I tend to answer as honestly as I can. that I don't know but dad will always love you and look after you.
I do miss him so. It is the little things I miss most.
I recently purchased the 5 love languages and his is acts of service. I come home to find things done, a hole fixed, lawns mowed, something added to the house ( a clothesline). But I don't hold my breath. I show appreciation for them and try and "reciprocate" by having the house tidy, washing up done and small things like that.
It started off to be a thing for him (something he complained about) but is now something for me as the tidy house is more peaceful. I have been decluttering as well which is totally for me. I enjoy the fact that a person can come to the house and 95% of the time it is presentable.
I also purchased myself a small puppy. When H asked about why I got it I simply replied because I can.
The girls are funny as I am looking at repainting, a big move for me as I am not that handy LOL. When H said soemthing about a colour, Miss7 said "daddy this is a girls house you are not the boss."
He replied "But I am here." Miss7 "But Daddy you are with OW in a new house this is OUR house."
He looked unhappy with that but it's the truth.
Another funny thing happened as well. He was at home watching tv with Miss13, Miss10 and myself and soemone on tv was trying to have an affair and he said "What sort of idiot does that?" It was met with dead silence. Ummmm Hello you at least had EA with OW before walking out but OW was still married and hiding it from her H for a few weeks at least. I didn't say it but my eyebrows quirked i think he realised himself as he quickly changed the subject. I wanted to laugh and I wanted to throttle him all a the same time.
