Thank you for all the great advise. I'm certainly taking things very slow. I've told my W that I can't commit to anything right now and we both need time to figure out what we want. She is really trying to re-connect with me but it's no mystery that I'm still hurt by all of this and trust isn't an option for me currently.

I'm sure over time I'll be able to forgive her.

M: 36
W: 29
S: 2.5
EA: 2/2010 OM1
D Bomb: 3/2010
PA: 6/2010 OM2
W moved out 8/2010
Loc: DE, USA