A new thread about healing through Retrouvaille

[25yearsmlc]

my H and I went to Retrovaille last year and got a lot out of it. As someone else said, it was entirely funded by contributions and no one was turned away due to finances. They made a point of being clear about that and so much so, that my h and I contributed enough for ourselves and another couple to attend, to make sure another couple would be able to afford it. And it was not expensive when you realize they provided housing and food, and "Entertainment". Also, our speakers ALL had a spouse or two who'd been in affairs, so although we were told to end any A's that might be going on, our speakers certainly had experience with it.

Also for us, the stories we heard were so sad and tragic YET with happy endings, it made us feel relatively lucky and optimistic. And we are. We're still here.

I highly recommend it. My h is not Catholic and we did not feel pressure in that way at all. The priest offered to listen to anyone "who felt they had been harmed by the church" and I thought that was cool and tough for him. An atheist might have trouble with it but for us, the priest was so low key I cannot imagine any but the most ardent atheists being irritated by him. Maybe it's baggage or a reason to justify not getting something out of it. Have not heard of anyone not helped although not all make it. I
read somewhere that 80% of couples who attend Retrovaille are still together 2 years later. That's pretty impressive when you consider the circumstances in which they attended.

We Got a lot out of it. In fact, We'd Recommend it for ALL couples, not just those in trouble. And yes, my "Sage advice" for those willing to do "anything" to save their marriage, is to forgive, let go of the past and your scorecard and stop mind reading or thinking you know what motivates your spouse. Take their words at face value til actions prove otherwise...

can't think of ANY long term marriage that has not had to do all of these.
good luck all,