I don't know your sitch. Are you posted elsewhere? Your sitch would have to be a highly unsusual one to have your w benefit by hearing about you reading the DB books. In fact, to many WAS's it'll look like pursuit, or even manipulation. Like a book with "Tactics" in it.
Why are you here on this site, if you think she'd benefit by knowing what you are reading? I mean, don't be so quick to ignore the advice of the book's author, with its' pretty detailed explanation. Have you read them both to their ends? Sometimes people start the books and want to "share their insights" with their reluctant spouse. That has not, to my knowledge, ever helped.
A WAS usually wants OUT of the M, (or thinks they do,) or they want ACTION on the part of their spouse. Not announcements of reading materials with the implied promise of change. IF you need to change and the books help you, then DO the changes. It'll be harder to look as if you've changed if the spouse thinks you are simply "trying the new 'trick' in the marriage book" and that's gonna backfire. In my opinion at least.
Good luck. I'd need more details of your sitch to know what else to tell you if this isn't clear enough.
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
