Beautiful, SaveMM. Wow! i never thought when I asked those questions that I would read such heartfelt answers. I have tears in my eyes from Kalni, Cyrena and Save. Arnie, sorry, no tears.
Ok, Arnie, I think you may be right about there not being a forgiving personality, but if you had been reading this website in the past 6 months you would have seen some very unforgiving personalities, and that's what brought me to question it. I have seen people claim to reconcile who are so untrusting that they continue surveillance on the spouse. Forgiving? No, they recount time and again all the spouse did wrong and then aggrandize the acts so that they are tantamount to murder. And then, being ever helpful, they went from thread to thread reminding each person of the affronts committed by their spouses, to keep those hurts at the forefronts of their minds.
Kalni, your posts do make me feel sad because I was here all along while you fought to save this marriage, and now to win and still feel like you've lost. I wish I had an answer for you. And Cyrena, to think of all that you have been through and to be able to forgive so completely things that most people would think were unforgivable. And Save, keep going to Post. They will get to a session on intimacy. It is a difficult topic and not something easily addressed by others, but Retrouvaille will try to help you there, too. Human relations are so complicated!
